Welcome to b-school. You’re in for one hell of a ride. But, let’s move back in time when winter wasn’t here yet. When you made the vow to take the black, whether it was when you decided to salvage your honour or for glory or because it was an escape, you made the entrance exams and your dream to get into an esteemed b-school a huge part of your life. And that part of your life is memorable because you got where you wanted to, if you leave aside the many self-doubts you’ll face as the term progresses. The idea of being among the elite few to get into one of the most coveted places in a country that thrives on aspirations is a great place to be. But, you’re still the green boy with the smell of summer on you.
And now that term 1 has truly set in, your watch has begun. “A bruise is a lesson... and each lesson makes us better.” That bruise might be a surprise quiz, your project group with very different mind-sets, a subject that makes no sense to you, or competitions where you didn't make it to the cut, regardless of the effort you put in. It helps that you treat the pain you feel as a bruise and nothing more, even as all of us have different coping mechanisms, because when you play the game of b-school life, either you win or you learn. “So, don’t be afraid to make mistakes, to stumble and fall, because sometimes the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you’ll get everything you wanted, maybe you’ll get more. Who knows where life takes you, because in the end, the journey is the destination.”
And when you see it like that, your destination includes seemingly insignificant things like dealing with cultural shocks in a manner that makes your peers realise that an MBA program is more than just honing your intellect. It is when you pick up words of a new language and show it off, regardless of whether your instructor taught you with sincerity, or the thrill of navigating your way through a local vendor and giving yourself the credit of creating a brand new language (a mix up of your attempt at a new language and your fluent language), even if sometimes, similar sounding words gets you lost in translation- they make for great late night breaks as you narrate your misadventures. Try, because even the Mother of Dragons needed to learn Dothraki to truly command the Khalasars. Of course, eating non-home food might feel like eating dried horseflesh for a while, that you’ll one day force down your throat to prove a point to someone (remember the eat-the-raw-heart-without-puking challenge?). Mostly that someone is yourself and it’s usually a phase, before you realise that there are better points you can prove and decide to find alternate avenues.
In the words of Tyrion Lannister, “Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.” Admit to yourself that you’re an engineer, a member of any race that’s stereotyped, a person with a sense of ethics that defies norms, a person with different priorities than most, or a person who’s just plain confused, or with a weakness. Everyone has them, some wear a better mask than others, but the point is that you don’t have to fight with yourself, or who you are. As fire cannot kill a dragon, your past is an integral part of you and it is one of the reasons why you are where you are- your experience which is unique to you, but can accommodate the experience of others, because you’ll soon realise that an MBA is often a crash course on life, more often than business.
You’ll soon realise that you’re learning more outside the classroom than inside. You need to venture beyond the wall to know that there are wildlings or white walkers, and more importantly the difference between the two, which is why it is often not in your own self-interest to be self-centred, because there’s something to learn from everybody. Discounting another’s capacity based on a single inability could turn out to be disastrous-considering the fact that both Samwell Tarley and Petyr Baelish weren’t great at warfare; they both used their abilities in ways that changed the game.
One term later, we call ourselves survivors, because we learn to make peace with the fact that everyone who isn’t you isn’t your enemy. You learn to mock yourself and tough times because it’s alright that you’re not the best at everything, lest you take yourself too seriously. You start to feel a sense of belonging with a set of characters, who take you through the good, the bad, and the ugly.
“When the snows fall and the white winds blow, the lone wolf dies but the pack survives.”
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Shobhit Sharma
Nicely put.. Good work.
3 Oct 2017, 05.06 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thanks :)
3 Oct 2017, 05.31 PM |
Roshni Chandar
Cersei better watch out, I guess INSIDE IIM found their Khaleesi. Amazing article :)
3 Oct 2017, 05.54 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thanks for the encouragement! :)
5 Oct 2017, 07.27 PM |
Rama Subramanian
excellent article Riddhi not your knowledge is showcased your brought up is portrayed as well. keep up the good work.
3 Oct 2017, 06.27 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thanks a lot !
5 Oct 2017, 07.28 PM |
Gayathri Naga
Superb article ridhi dear!
3 Oct 2017, 08.11 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thank you :)
5 Oct 2017, 07.28 PM |
Jyothi Kalra
So very true Riddhi
3 Oct 2017, 08.58 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thanks :)
5 Oct 2017, 07.29 PM |
AMIT BAJAJ
Keep it up my grand daughter
3 Oct 2017, 10.20 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thank you, will do :)
5 Oct 2017, 07.29 PM |
Kanta Bajaj
Cool n casual
Most aptly written.Our ability to get the very best out of ourselves under almost all conditions and circumstances.It is your ability to adapt and change your life.
3 Oct 2017, 10.27 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Your encouragement keeps me going, thank you :)
5 Oct 2017, 07.30 PM |
Sadhana Kukreja
Very well written Riddhi.
4 Oct 2017, 03.07 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thanks a lot !
5 Oct 2017, 07.31 PM |
Rajiv Bathija
Well written Riddhi...looking out for the article on the second term now. Rajiv Bathija
5 Oct 2017, 12.13 AM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thank you very much :)
5 Oct 2017, 07.31 PM |
Tushar Patil
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I often kept doubting myself because of my poor past academic record, but this line - "Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you." really gives me goosebumps. It teaches us to accept our reality, as Tyrion did. Great Article! Can you please share your past academic record too? I'm looking forward to a reply.
5 Oct 2017, 02.12 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thank you for your words of appreciation :) Glad to know the article helped. My acads: 96% (10th), 96%(12th), 8.02/10 (B.B.A)
5 Oct 2017, 07.34 PM |
Krithika Ramachandran
One of the most inspiring articles I've come across in a while! Perfect ❤️
8 Oct 2017, 12.05 PM
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Riddhi Kalra
Likes to appreciate the brilliance in mediocrity and the beauty in humility. A banker by the week and writer by the weekend. Alumnus of IIM Trichy (Class of 2019)
Thank you for the encouragement :)
11 Oct 2017, 12.45 AM |