“Become the leader of your life. Lead yourself to where you want to be. Breathe life back into your ambitions, your desires, your goals, your relationships.”
The motto of my life is aptly described by above mentioned quote of Steve Maraboli but if you’re a girl born in an Indian traditional family you don’t get to have ambitions or desires of your own, you only have to abide by the patriarchal decision taken for you.
I am Dimple budhani this is my story of overcoming hurdles in my life. Every thing was fine in life before I reached age of thirteen after that, I was a teenage girl who needed to be protected from the world. I first realized the fact that life is not same anymore when I was wearing a sleavless Top to my friends birthday and my father came in and dragged me out to tell that you are not child anymore ,go home and dress more appropriately. I was scolded that night and my father said to my mother this is why I wanted boy, what will I do with the girl who can’t even further my family name. I cried that night but my mother stood by side so that I can live my life.
My father loved me but he always wanted a boy and I always desired of becoming a boy for him ,I was not successful in that but I made him proud when I was awarded in my 12 class but after that came the decision of my career ,he said to me just finish your graduation and get married but I fought and enrolled myself in CA.
I asked him if I could go out he was so angry that night he didn’t talk to me for a week but being a stubborn girl that I am ,I applied for CAT and convinced him and became not only first girl but first child in my family to go out of Indore for my further studies to TAPMI.
I take proud in myself of changing my fathers mentality who didn’t allow me to wear sleeveless dress to father who supported her to go out for studies when even my cousin brother was not allowed to do that.
